I have learned not to expect one. Really. Find a way to be sorry for the jerk or misinformed person that hurt you. I have been to therapy because I needed it, badly, I needed someone to help re-learn that I am a good person and that I am okay just the way I am. I was really broken when I went to therapy, life had just finished kicking the living shit out of me, and thankfully it is many years behind me now. There were kind people and loved ones that helped me through what was one of the worst times of my existence. I learned that people are not sorry the way I needed them to be for the pain they had caused me and the shit they may have put me through, and for that I am forgiving. However, I have definitely accepted, finally, that some people can not say sorry. I think it is cowardly because even if you aren’t, you really hurt some one, isn’t one of life’s basic rules taught in our childhood is that you should be sorry. Therapy, all those years ago, definitely taught me one thing and that is not all people will play by the same rules that I do. Saying sorry comes easy to me, first of all I am a woman, second I am Canadian and third I do not like when I hurt anyone(unless there is no better choice). I have yet to figure out why some people have forgotten or just don’t think it matters that you apologize if you hurt someone intentionally or otherwise. I also have been known to say sorry for absolutely nothing at all, a proud Canadian trait that I have been working on for a couple a years now. Those are my thoughts on apologizing along with this poem.
A delicate lace of ribbon
That binds us to closure
Threads whose loose ends can be tied
With the strength in an apology
It will bind our world in love
Or find our hearts regret
In an eyes blink
Without an apology
Forgiveness is our greatest power.